1. Secrets — You fear the consequences of telling your partner something you are ashamed about, and therefore cut off lines of communication.

2. Egotism — Thinking of yourself before thinking of your partner or the relationship diminishes the importance of your partner.

3. Pettiness — Blowing the little things up into big things when there is probably something else that is going on results in avoidance of the real issue.

4. Power — Always needing to be in control and trying to control your partner does not allow your partner his or her own indepedence.

5. Priorities — Doing everything else in your life before putting effort into the relationship tells your partner that his or her needs don't equal yours.

6. Selfishness — Using the relationship to feel good rather than just trying to be a good person in your relationship.

7. Excuses — Not accepting your responsibility for your mistakes and owning up to them shows a lack of maturity.

8. Liaisons — Maintaining taboo relationships when they might be doing harm to you and your partner undermines your commitment as a couple.

9. Denial — Ignoring the red flags and not discussing them constricts lines of open communication.

10. Withdrawal — Disconnecting for reasons that are not discussed or that you are confused about shuts down any hope of intimacy.